Causes of low self-esteem

Past life experiences play a major part in shaping our beliefs. People perception of their capabilities and incapability is based on how past life's experiences shaped their beliefs. Life experiences can make people underestimate their capabilities, this perception errors is not exclusive to human, it extends to other species of animals such as elephant. For example when elephant is young, you can be able to tie it to a short stake because it is not strong enough to break the stake although initially it can attempt to do that but to no avail and the rope will cut its leg after many attempts to break the stake or untie the rope; eventually the pain of that cut will make it give up and formed the belief that any attempt to untie the rope will only cause pain and suffering. So even if after this elephant grow up, you can still tie it to the same short stake and it will never attempt to break the stake despite it is strong enough to break it now with little efforts. The reason why this elephant will never attempt to break the stake now despite it has the capability to do is because past experiences make it formed the belief that any attempt to break the stake will only cause pain and suffering. This type of elephant perception isn't different with how people perceive things. and this is how people develop low self-esteem. People perception of their capabilities is heavily influenced by how society conditioned their beliefs not based on what they are capable to do, that's why you can meet someone who achieved academy, career and financial successes but still feels inferior to losers because he was bullied in the past. whenever he try to be confident his brain triggers the feeling he experienced when he's young and weak and try to depend himself against bullies. He may still feel like he is no capable of being confident the way he feel he is no capable of depending himself against physically stronger bullies when he's young and physically weak.

You can get over feeling of low self-esteem by seeking professional help. This paper was just written to let you know how people develop low self-esteem

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