Love Psychology

A man is value by women for his social status, confidence, and material wealth while woman is value by men for her youthful sexy-body and fertility. The primary reasons why MOST men dating a woman is for sex. Due to how men brain were wired to constantly think of sex he is likely to overlook other factors provided a young and sexy girl flirt him. so based on these facts yes a lady who wear skin tight clothes that moulded to the contours of her body will likely attract boyfriends. but she will mostly attract those who need her for sex not those who love her for who she are. Dont assume men see sex the way you do. They don't. If someone marry you solely because of your sexy-body there is a high chance he will discard you when you developed saggy skin after your beauty diminished. Likewise in a society where men are expected to provide their wives all basic needs because women are deprived the opportunity of earning much, Yes you can use money to attract many women because money pro

Why I find it difficult to get a girlfriend but other people find it easier? The reasons is because people achieved the same thing at different time. Some people find their girlfriend in their teens, others in their 20s, some people in their 30s while others in their 40s. So stop comparing yourself with others. But many girls rejected me, I don't think any woman will ever find me worthy of love Statistics shows the sex ratio for the entire world population is approximately 101 males to 100 females based on 2021 estimates. Unless in a society where they prioritize polygamy or polygyny and sex-selective abortion, we may said that natural selection makes it possible that almost any man will have a wife and vice versa. Keep in mind that girls are also looking for boyfriends too because women are wired to want babies they are people like you with similar needs. And I don't even think the sex ratio distribution is universal because even if statistics says that, the common sense te

Have you ever witness some cases where a man divorce his wife because she's not making more money than him? I think such cases is very rare. But in the other hand you will often see the instances of wife divorce her husband because he is no making much money. A woman can be unemployed with no future hope but still get a husband but no woman will ever agree to marry an unemployed man who does not have any future hope. Yes money attract women but mainly in society where there's large earning gap, men are expected to support women financially because women where deprived opportunity to earn much. Money attract women because people usually practice homogamy, homogamy in sociology is a form of assortative mating whereby people form marriage and mating with a person of a similar socioeconomic status, ethnicity, race, age, educational level and religion. So a woman from wealthier family is likely to be attracted to a man who possessed material wealth Money can overpowered people bio

Confidence in men is attractive to women the way physical beauty in women is attractive to men. And lack of self-confidence, insecurity or shyness in men is a turn off to women the way woman ugly face turns men off. If self-confidence in men is so attractive to women then how comes some men struggle to be confident no matter how you persuade them? People struggle to develop self-confidence because of phenomenon known as "confirmation bias" . According to Cambridge dictionary confirmation bias is the fact that people are more likely to accept or notice information if it appears to support what they already believe or expect. While dictionary.apa.org define confirmation bias as the tendency to gather evidence that confirms preexisting expectations, typically by emphasizing or pursuing supporting evidence while dismissing or failing to seek contradictory evidence. Examples of how confirmation bias influences our perception A woman who has intense fear of cats (Gatophobia) is ver

Past life experiences play a major part in shaping our beliefs. People perception of their capabilities and incapability is based on how past life's experiences shaped their beliefs. Life experiences can make people underestimate their capabilities, this perception errors is not exclusive to human, it extends to other species of animals such as elephant. For example when elephant is young, you can be able to tie it to a short stake because it is not strong enough to break the stake although initially it can attempt to do that but to no avail and the rope will cut its leg after many attempts to break the stake or untie the rope; eventually the pain of that cut will make it give up and formed the belief that any attempt to untie the rope will only cause pain and suffering. So even if after this elephant grow up, you can still tie it to the same short stake and it will never attempt to break the stake despite it is strong enough to break it now with little efforts. The reason why this

It's generally believed that confidence give man more advantage than money because women are turn on by men's sense of security (i.e confidence) and turn off by their weaknesses (= lack of confidence, insecurity or shyness). Confidence in men is attractive to women the way physical beauty in women is attractive to men. And lack of self-confidence, insecurity or shyness in men is a turn off to women the way woman ugly face turns men off. If shyness, insecurity and lack of self-confidence in men are negative traits then how comes some men develop them and have trouble to overcome them no matter how you persuade them? Causes of Shyness and lack of confidence Being always put down by parents or caregivers: If a child being put down always or calling him with resentful names such as "retard" or "dumb", such Name-calling can negatively affect his self-worth by making him believes something is wrong with him. Similarly a child who is always emotionally put do

The reason why some guys are afraid to approach women they like is because of lack of self-confidence, they think they don't have the skills to approach them. But why do they think so? Low self-esteem and self-worth: Someone who developed low self-esteem/self-worth will often overestimate girls worth and underestimate his own worth. He may think a girl is out of his league despite he and her come from the same social class, because past life experiences shaped his identity and make him developed low self-esteem over the years based on what he believes people think of him. Any attempt to act outside this identity or misconceptions he developed trigger the same feelings you experience for example if you attempt to touch ember or bare electric wires (see causes of shyness and lack of confidence for more details). If you are afraid to approach women because you think they are out of your league despite both of you are from the same social class, chances are your fear is based on how

Why do we find someone attractive but not others, why do we fall in love with someone but not others? Each of us view the world differently because we have different unsatisfied needs, values and have different life experiences, as result of this we view beauty differently. If you have verbal skill you'll not be impressed by someone with verbal skill but someone without verbal skill will. If you are educated you will not be impressed by someone with the same level of education as you but uneducated will. That's why you can find someone attractive/beautiful but someone find him/her just average. That's why you can assume someone will find you attractive and lovable but end up rejecting you. That is why you can assume nobody will ever find you attractive but you end up getting partners, That's why you can see people whom you think have nothing in common but end up getting married. The reason why you find someone attractive but others not find him attractive may also beca

Men are very visual who can easily find their potential wife based on her physical attraction, they fall in love faster than women so they are more likely to fall in love at first sight than women. That is not the case for women, they are very cautious about falling in love, they requires time to fully know someone before falling in love with him Why do we fell in love at first sight? Although deep love my not exist at first sight, but that doesn't prevent us from falling in love with someone in the first encounter even if we don't know the person personally. If you fall in love with someone in the first encounter there is possibility you fall under following scenarios: Anchor: Anchor is when occurrence of something remind you of something else that happened in the past. For example you can remember old memory by listening to the old music, you can remember your school days or school mates when you saw someone wearing the type of school uniform you worn in your school

Financial issues: If someone is financially secure, he can tolerate many things without getting angrier but he can easily get disappointed if he's broke. So lack of financial security can cause misunderstanding among couples and can lead to divorce. Getting married to wrong person: For example getting married to someone who is 15 or 20 years older or younger than you; there is a chance that you have different life experiences and misunderstanding is likely to arise which can lead to divorce. Or marriage between someone who is conservative and someone who is radical, in such a case, misunderstanding is likely to arise for example conservative partner may try to rise his/her children according to familiar way (the way most people do) but radical partner may oppose that this is outdated way. Getting married to someone who have different interest, ideas and values: For example if you are a devout religious person but you got married to non-religious person, misunderstanding is li

I failed to forget thinking about my ex-boyfriend since when he dumped me to other girl. Whenever i logged into Facebook i shall think of him. If i'm about to eat i shall think of him. Whenever i smell a perfume i shall think of him. Everywhere i go i shall think of him. Whenever i play music i shall think of him. In such circumstances the girl may think the intense love she feels toward her ex-boyfriend make her unable to stop thinking of him. There's psychological term call "Anchor" which suggests that occurrence of something can remind you of something else that happened in the past. Any sense organs be it eye, ear, nose, tongue and skin can remind us the past events. For example: Have you ever saw a girl wearing the type of school uniform you worn in your school days then, and suddenly that remind you of your school days or your school mates? I believe you have been in such situation. Likewise you can remember something that happened years ago if you listen to an

Research shows short men have fewer dates compared to tall men. Women prefer men who are taller than them.

Love addiction is the tendency of using romance as a coping mechanisms similar to the way some people use intoxicants to forget about their life problems.

Yes of course, marriage can give you a lasting happiness but only if it has any relation or impact on the issues in your life that make you unhappy, otherwise it can only give you temporary happiness. For example if lack of financial security make your life miserable but you manage to got a husband with financial security who loves you so much, will that not overcome your financial issues and make you happy? Of course yes. Also if disable person is unhappy because he can't interact with people effectively but he got married and have children who support him, will that not overcome his obstacles and make him happy? Of course yes. But marriage will not give you a lasting happiness if for example you are depress because you are financially broke but you got married to husband without financial security or because you didn't have opportunity of getting education, in such a case marriage can only bury the problems for a short while, and the reasons why the marriage will make you hap

Does a lady shows some signs that she loves you but she stopped showing these signs afterward? The reasons is because you didn't approach her to show her your romantic interest despite the signs she showed. Whenever woman show you some signs of romantic interests she unconsciously asking you to approach her because women don't have natural instinct to ask men out. The natural instinct for women is to be approach by guys. So as you failed to approach her, she may feel bad and retreat back. Women rarely (if ever) approach men and ask them out. How do you feel if you ask a girl out but she rejected you? I know most guys will feel that they have been humiliated. So that is what women feel if they show you some signs but you failed to approach them.

Are you feeling bad because your lover dumped you? Feeling bad after breakup is normal but if your mood never return to normal after a long time then it is time to look for the trigger of your bad mood. The underlying reasons why your bad mood persist after breakup or divorce for a long time is due to other problems in your life not related to the breakup. You may feel bad after breakup not because of the intense love you feel towards your partner but because unconsciously you feel you are rejected because you have some faults, because you are not worthy enough or because you are not upto the standards. You will be depressed after breakup up not because of the love you feel towards your ex-partner but because you became hopeless thinking you have no further chances of getting someone who will accept you again. Reasons for feeling bad after breakup Because the breakup make you doubt your self-worth: If man drives his self-esteem from over-confidence, he thinks he's

Most women aren't attracted to shy guys, women are attracted to men's emotional sense of security (i.e confidence) and turn off by weakness (i.e shyness and insecurity). But some may argue they see the instances of shy guys who maintained a long-term relationship, how comes this happened? For the same reasons you will find out ugly and non-sexy girls end up getting married despite most men aren't attracted to ugly and non-sexy girls. Men aren't choosy when it comes to casual sex provided woman is in her sexual prime because there are many cases where some people taking advantage of women with brain damage and impregnated them despite nobody will ever agree to marry mad-women. But men are EXTREMELY selective when it comes to serious relationship. Yes of course some women may like shy guy over confident guy. For instance. Reasons why some women like shy guys A girl whom her father favour male child will grow up with the belief that feminine traits are weaknesses

Zainab is an attractive young lady who maintains good hygiene and look after her appearance by wearing fashionable clothes and using makeup to appear more attractive. This habit of her makes her more attractive to most guys. Thereafter she was engaged and got married but shortly after she born children she let herself go. So what is the reasons behind this? Some women let themselves go after marriage because of the following reasons They look after their appearance solely for attracting partner: Men are very visual when it comes to sexual attraction; they obsessed strongly with women appearances, many of them don't care what woman look from inside or her attributes they only care how she look from outside. Girls understand this when they observe physically beautiful girls are the ones that most men stare at; the lack of attention some women get from men make them to use makeup to make men into thinking they are more attractive than they actually are. But now that they got hu

Some of the common things that turn men off are Saggy skin as result of aging: The primary reason why most men fall in love with women is because of her sexy body. Woman physical beauty is what mostly attract men. Because woman with saggy skin and breast looks non-sexy, most men are turn off by them. If woman reproductive years is numbered: Women are value by men based on their child-bearing age and the average women reproductive years are between the ages of 12 and 51. Women child-bearing age is from puberty when they start getting their menstrual period to menopause but MOST women do not remain fertile until menopause, most are infertile after the age of 42-45. The more years woman has to reproduce, the more she's attractive to men, and the less years she has, the more she turns men off. So your suitors are likely to reduce after the age of 25 and will reduce more after the age of 30. Younger women are naturally more attractive to men than older women. even older men find you

Being a nice guy, such as becoming her servant by washing her clothes, ironing, cleaning or being her messenger. Someone may wonder how being nice to woman will turn her off? The reasons are: women are turn on by men's emotional strengths (i.e confidence) but turn off by his weaknesses (= lack of confidence). So becoming her servant means you're weak man who can't lead. If man fails to lead, in such a case woman may sense his weakness, and weakness turns women off. Shyness and insecurity also turn women off.

Unlike men who give priority to physical beauty (i.e they need suitable body to have sex) women need reasons to have sex. Women rarely fall in love with a man based on his looks alone, (i never mean women don't consider look at all). Being a handsome is not enough to make a woman fall in love with you, but being able to take care of her and her children is more important to her than physical beauty. As psychologists suggest, women are attracted to men who have a sense of security , a man who can protect them and their offsprings that's why women like tall, confident and assertive man who has good confident body posture, someone with social skill who can initiate a conversation with them without feeling anxious. Women give priority to men social class and prosperity as study suggests. That's why in secondary schools you will realise the dominant, lawlessness and bad boys have more girlfriends on average because they are the ones who display a sense of security to girls. Alth

As psychologists suggest, most of the things that attract men to women are nothing other than feminine hormones that show woman is fertile. That's way men can't resist the temptation to look at a woman who possessed the following Youth, youth indicates woman will take more years given birth compared to older women who are approaching menopause. Woman best reproductive years are in her 20s. Slim body that show woman is healthy or not pregnant. Ideal waist to hip ratio that indicate giving birth will be easier. Sexy Voice: Men can easily lose their mind when girl talk to them with sexy voice, usually a girl with higher-pitched and breathy voices because they indicate smaller body size and woman who have them is in the peak of her fertility. Research suggests a sexy voice can seduce men by making them experience increase heart rate. The following also attract men and arouse them sexually although their impact on reproductive isn't yet known because women who not po

Most people have that ambition of finding partner to share their lives with since childhood; they may easily believe that everybody share their sentiment but when they grow up they will realise not everybody have that ambition, they wonder how comes some people keep away from something that everybody want? They suffer from dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment: Early childhood experience influences our perception of love, what we learn about love in childhood influences how we love others in our adulthood. If your parents, caregivers and society in general give you love, you will likely grow up loving others. But if parents or caregivers didn't give a child attention or care, the child will grow up with the belief that no body will give him attention or care even if he requires so, he will not trust anybody based on the assumption that he's unworthy of love, nobody will ever love him and this will make him/her to distance himself/herself from other. They feel th

As we observe in all animals kingdom, males are the ones who initiate the first move when it comes to sexual relationship and human are no exception. Because women rarely make the first move to ask men out. If woman loves you she'll not tell you with her mouth but she will tell you with her body language instead. Body language are harder to fake than verbal language. Women often show some signs that indicate they love a man, these signs are unconscious as they can hardly conceal them. A man should be confident and go ahead to ask her out. But what if you're shy, do you have a chance? I will answer this question in the subsequent articles. Signs that woman loves you She'll try to initiate a trivial conversation with you; for example by asking you questions about matters that are known to her. Woman does that so that she can draw your attention towards her She greet or talk to you with soft or sexy voice She use emotional, affectionate or enthusiastic tone while talking