Feeling worthlessness and hopelessness after breakup or divorce

Are you feeling bad because your lover dumped you? Feeling bad after breakup is normal but if your mood never return to normal after a long time then it is time to look for the trigger of your bad mood. The underlying reasons why your bad mood persist after breakup or divorce for a long time is due to other problems in your life not related to the breakup. You may feel bad after breakup not because of the intense love you feel towards your partner but because unconsciously you feel you are rejected because you have some faults, because you are not worthy enough or because you are not upto the standards. You will be depressed after breakup up not because of the love you feel towards your ex-partner but because you became hopeless thinking you have no further chances of getting someone who will accept you again.

Reasons for feeling bad after breakup

1. Because the breakup make you doubt your self-worth: If man drives his self-esteem from over-confidence, he thinks he's popular and most people in the town hold him in high regard but the hottest girl in the town dumped him to other man, he may doubt his self-worth and feel like the girl dumped him to other man because he's more popular, worthy and successful than him. But he will no feel bad if he really knows the girl dumb him not because she consider him less worthy. So the reasons why the man feel worthless is because he doubts his self-worth not because he loves the girl.
2. Because the breakup proved your sentiments: If someone was constantly put down by his peers and as result of that he feels inferior thinking he is so different and nobody worthwhile will ever interested in him, but he managed to get himself a girlfriend at first sight, in such a case, if his girlfriend dumped him, he will depressed severely because this will proved his sentiments (i.e she dumped him because he's so different and worthless) and this sentiments will make him hopeless and depressed based on the assumption that nobody will ever find him attractive then. This is the case especially if marriage is his main goal in life
3. Because you drive your self-esteem from show off: Someone who frustrated because people consider him as loser, underestimate him or look down on him because they failed to recognise his achievement will likely (or only) falls in love with a successful lady who draws people attention such as beautiful or popular lady because finding her as a wife will elevate his social status by making people admire and stop looking down on him. But if that girl dumped him he will lost that attention and fell worthless or depressed.
4. Because you use love as coping mechanism: Falling in love releases a hormone known as dopamine which makes people happy and forget some life problems for a short while, so you're likely to depress if you use love as a coping mechanism if your partner dumped you because the problems you are running away will hunt you again.
5. Afraid of the future: If girl depends on her man financially or if she feels she will have financial security by getting married to him, she will depress if he dumped her without knowing that the reason of her depression is lack of financial security not because she loves the man.
6. Because you lost your identity as a husband or wife: You're likely to feel worthless, lonely inside or even depressed if you feel like you have no place in society or have nothing to contribute. For example, have you ever know someone who has high self-esteem and confidence when he is a general manager of a popular company only to lost that self-esteem and feel worthless when the company sack him? The reasons why he lost his self-esteem and confidence is because he lost his identity, i.e "general manager of a popular company" that gives him prestigious status. Likewise for some people their only identity is husband/wife and their only contribution to society is parenting. Marriage is also a status symbol in some society and being unmarried at certain age is a stigma. So they are likely to depress after divorce because they lost their identity and feel like they have no place in society.
7. Because the breakup reminds you your time is over: If your boyfriend dumped you to other young girl when you're over the age of thirty, you're likely to feel bad and depress based on the assumption that he dumped you because your physical beauty has diminished, your time is over and you're no longer attractive to men. This isn't always the case because people change overtime and so does their preferences; the older you're the more your dating pool change. It's common for teenagers and people in their early twenties to date a girl thier age or someone slightly older than them, but this routine changes if they grow up

Feeling of worthlessness is nothing other than the belief that you're not worthy enough and depression is nothing other than hopelessness, the belief that you can't achieve your goals.