Why do you find someone attractive but not others?

Why do we find someone attractive but not others, why do we fall in love with someone but not others? Each of us view the world differently because we have different unsatisfied needs, values and have different life experiences, as result of this we view beauty differently. If you have verbal skill you'll not be impressed by someone with verbal skill but someone without verbal skill will. If you are educated you will not be impressed by someone with the same level of education as you but uneducated will. That's why you can find someone attractive/beautiful but someone find him/her just average. That's why you can assume someone will find you attractive and lovable but end up rejecting you. That is why you can assume nobody will ever find you attractive but you end up getting partners, That's why you can see people whom you think have nothing in common but end up getting married. The reason why you find someone attractive but others not find him attractive may also because your subconscious mind realizes the person characteristics resemble someone who made or will make positive impact in your life. And this happens unconsciously

Examples

  1. Someone who believes that he didn't get the attention he deserved or people are underestimating and looking down on him will likely (or only) falls in love with a very popular or beautiful lady (= to show off how cool he is)
  2. If man feels worthless because he lacks assertiveness he is likely (or only) fall in love with assertive lady who treats people kindly; he will find her attractive even if people find her unattractive
  3. You may not find someone attractive if that person looks like your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife who hurts you badly because people unconsciously feel people who look the same have the same attitude, since your ex hurt you, you will feel as if any other person who looks like him/her will hurt you too.
  4. Employees may wish their children to be employees too, but CEOs wish their children to be the next CEOs of their company. CEOs are likely to choose a business-oriented woman over other women.
  5. Likewise you can find someone attractive if that person has something you lack. For example average black guy will like lighter skin girl over dark skin girl in sub-saharan Africa. That is the reason why selling of skin lightening products is rampant in Africa despite the risks, including cancer and liver damage. According to un.org "Statistics compiled by the World Health Organisation in 2011 showed that 40% of African women bleach their skin. In some countries the figure is higher: a staggering 77% of women in Nigeria, 59% in Togo, 35% in South Africa, 27% in Senegal and 25% in Mali use skin-lightening products"
  6. If man can't control his temper, he hurts people badly if he's angry but always regrets his actions if he calm down, he will likely choose a lady who is talented in seducing/manipulating men who are out of control over other ladies, even if other men find her unattractive
  7. If someone resembles your loved ones (i.e one of your parents or family members) you will find him attractive even if others find him just average.
  8. If someone resembles your best friend you may find him attractive even if others find him average.
  9. If someone resembles someone you constantly bullied or hurt but now you regret what you did to him, you may find him attractive even if someone finds him unattractive.
  10. If someone feel inferior or worthless but someone treats him nicely he may find that person attractive even if others find him unattractive.

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